I wrote this essay for the May issue of Today’s Parent Magazine (under a pen name) about the bittersweetness of Mother’s Day for me as an adoptive mother. “Mother’s Day brings to mind fresh flowers, blueberry pancakes and homemade cards. It’s a day to be spoiled and fêted by family. But for me, an adoptive mother, it’s [...]
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The bittersweetness of Mother’s Day
Posted in Adoption on May 8, 2012 | 15 Comments »
Fear and joy: the adoption visit
Posted in Adoption, tagged open adoption on April 29, 2012 | 17 Comments »
The latest Open Adoption Roundtable posed the question: “How do you feel after a visit?” The question is aimed at birthparents, adoptive parents and adoptees. I imagine the answer varies radically depending on where you sit in the adoption equation. Before we adopted I was very pro open adoption. I knew it was best for [...]
Ch-ch-ch-ch-changes
Posted in Adoption, Parenting on March 23, 2012 | 8 Comments »
Theo is two-and-a-half and seems like a totally different child from six months ago. Every day a new word or ability emerges. Despite the psyche-shredding experience of toddler tantrums, it’s a thrilling age of discovery and growth. Biggest Changes Food After a year of our nagging, bribing, cajoling and hand-wringing, Theo suddenly started eating “real [...]
Talking about difficult information
Posted in Adoption, tagged adoption difficult information, open on March 15, 2012 | 20 Comments »
When reading Somebody’s Child, an un-put-downable collection of 25 short personal stories on adoption, I was unexpectedly struck by Beth Grosart’s Abandoned but Loved. Unexpected because on the surface, it has nothing in common with our local, open adoption. Beth was a well-adjusted, happy 26-year-old when her parents took her to visit the Korean orphanage she was [...]
Myths about adoptive parents
Posted in Adoption on February 28, 2012 | 19 Comments »
All adoptive parents are wealthy* Truth: We live in apartments, condos, bungalows, townhouses, two-story homes, and sprawling suburban homes. Some of us rent; some own. Some of us are highly educated and have powerful jobs. Some of us are still paying off student loans. We are doctors, homemakers, social workers, construction workers, caregivers, and teachers. [...]
Ten+ things I love about you
Posted in Adoption, Parenting on February 14, 2012 | 14 Comments »
Hey, any excuse for a list. And this one is devoted to the littlest dude in the family with a shoutout to Daddy-oh. 1. I love the way you shout random things as a makeshift sentence: “Big one truck, class, snack, Aiden, car!” 2. I love how ridiculously excited you get when you see a [...]
What I learned this January
Posted in Adoption, Parenting on February 1, 2012 | 8 Comments »
This is part of Amber Strocel’s monthly review link-up. In January, I learned a few things: It’s nice to take a break from writing about adoption. I have lots to say on the subject but thought I’d kick off the New Year on a lighter note. I’m not the only mother stunned by their sons’ boyish tendencies. It’s [...]
Never say never again
Posted in Adoption, Parenting on January 17, 2012 | 28 Comments »
This week’s “Listacles” topic came from Greta at Not Enough Patience and Never Enough Jewelry: 10 things you said you’d never do but have caught yourself doing. Ten things I said I’d never do as a parent: 1. Feed my child pre-packaged snacks. Only whole grains and home-made EVERYTHING for my child. Picky eaters are spoiled [...]
The Year in Review
Posted in Adoption, Parenting on December 31, 2011 | 9 Comments »
Here are some of the posts that stood out for me over the last year. January: Theo turned 18 months, and I called him a marvel and a terror. I also wrote about “Saying Goodbye to the Nuclear Family.” February: I answered some “Frank Questions About Open Adoption.” March: I got angry and wrote “Don’t [...]
A birthmother’s perspective
Posted in Adoption, tagged Adoption, birthmom on December 28, 2011 | 6 Comments »
I met Monika, who is a birthmom, on Twitter and we chatted about doing an interview exchange (a concept borrowed from our favorite site: Open Adoption Blogs). She’s friendly and open about placing her daughter for adoption, which she blogs about at Monika’s Musings. Her interview with me is on her blog. Why or how did [...]
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